How to support a loved one dealing with loss and grief
Often, different circumstances in life change the course of our lives, entirely. Sometimes these circumstances make us feel good, but sometimes they cause us deep pain. Loss is a major event in someone’s life, completely throwing them off their plan or expected the path of actions. Often, we find ourselves in a situation when someone we care for, is grieving the loss of something or someone important. While we wish to extend our support to those grieving, we sometimes find ourselves at a loss for what to do.
The Kubler-Ross Model
While this model has been adapted to suit different perspectives and contexts better, the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross model of grief took us through a five-stage process of grief, as faced by the person dealing with the loss.
When this model was theorized, it was believed that the person suffering from the grief was going through these different stages consecutively. However, further investigations into this showed the world two new important aspects – the stages are not consecutive, and the emotions that someone close to the suffering person feels are contextually different. At Team Illuminations, we understand your need to help your loved one through their suffering, and so we believe that it is of utmost importance for you to understand how you are affected and what role you play in this situation.
How to support someone dealing with loss
When your loved one loses someone they loved to illnesses or accidents, or even when it is the falling through of a relationship, they are bound to suffer from the blow. When they suffer from a blow, it changes them in some way forever – which can impact their daily functioning and eventually, yours too. Here are a few ways you can support them through this unfortunate time.
They will need to vent. They will want to make sense of things that do not make sense to them, even if the answer is obvious to you. One way to support them is by patiently listening to them, as they work on figuring it out. They should know that it is okay for them to feel the way they do, and that they are safe with you. You will not be able to solve their problem, but you will be able to provide them with a sense of belonging that can help them cope with the pain.
It is important for them to know that you respect them. Everybody copes with loss differently, and it might seem strange to you if they don’t cope with it the way you or someone else you have observed would.
Don’t try to fix it
You will not be able to fix what happened, no matter how good your intentions are. Let the person be. Open up your heart to them and let them feel safe in your company. You will not be able to take the pain away, no matter what you do.
Help them with their routine
When dealing with loss, people often feel crippled even to carry out the most normal, routine tasks that they have been used to carrying out. You can help them in the smallest of ways, by helping out with food, cleaning up, and even taking their dog for a walk! Help them in the small ways till they get back on their own feet, which they will eventually.
Just show up
Sometimes they will not want to vent, cry or talk. Sometimes, they just want to sit in silence or even distract themselves by watching a movie or going for a walk. Show up and do this with them. Let them pick the activity they feel up to doing, and you can show your solidarity by doing it with them.
Help them consult with a therapist
For someone who has just undergone a major loss, it is difficult for them to be entirely conscious of the fact that professional help could be good for them, so as to help them cope, using scientific healing techniques. As their supporter, you can choose to take them to a therapist, who can impart his/her knowledge and training to help provide the right direction and advice.
Illuminations Well-Being Centre is a renowned depression treatment center in Dubai and we have been recognized as the pioneers of providing a holistic center for Depression treatment in Dubai, Depression therapy in Dubai has become widely sought out, as more and more people understand that therapy can help you cope with grief. For state-of-the-art life coaching in Dubai to help your loved one deal with the pain that comes with loss, book an appointment with our trained practitioners here.